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 in response to ekikaseven...   thanks for the compliments....lol do you know anyone who would want a cat....i only have 6 3 months old kittens who sats in my lap all the time and follow me around just about trip over them....lol they think if i put them down it is the end of their world....is there any training for cats like that...that you know of....lol they are so spoiled...i had to bottle feed them for there mother died when they were just 7 days old....give or take....i do know there eyes were still closed....my specialty is animal medical....well it is late and my battery on my laptop is about to go...you take care....thanks for the positive input....lord knows i need it....you take care....
daisy

 in response to daisydu...   Wow,
You have been through alot.
Do you have migraines?
Its very frustrating not being able to find a doctor who can cure us or at least do a good job of treating us.
I hope you find a doctor who can treat you & give you a better quality of life.
I'm not saying you don't have a good quality already, but in nursing we were taught that terminalogy of wording. We just basic want people life to be well & free of pain or at least as much as possible.

I think you are a very strong person. Alot of people couldn't endure what all you have been through & maintain such a lovely attitude in life.

Well, I will go for now. Its late, so I will try to get some sleep if I can.

Have a great day.

 in response to dogeatdog...   i didn't see your post until now....you are right....i shouldn't pass judgement on anyone....i myself know what it is to be judged....and i didn't call her a low life...if you would like for me to post what i posted her publically so you can see what i told her....i will....i have nothing to hide....that day...i have seen many people suffer...and i guess it angered me when most people on here are doing without food shelter and warmth...when she was asking for christmas cell phone to be paid....it just seems that the important things at her house is taken care of....and she is after the stuff that really isn't much compared to what other people need....more important things....there are people out there doing with out more....and just once....some people cant take in consideration and not ask for things like that....i hold nothing against that woman...and i didn't realize i was judging her....i have written to you back and forth to know you enough to know that you only mean well...and you are right....we shouldn't judge anyone....to proudmom....i'm sorry for judging you....but you didnt have to answer me like that....i just wanted her to understand and realize what other people are going through....not only her...but all of us....it was a common mistake just like when you and i got off on the wrong foot at first....it is all about having a hard time and supporting each other....in my post...to her i was a little firm and a smarta$$...and i do apologize for that....but when people sees someone asking for something that is not needed to survive....then something in me just clicked....i don't feel bad for everything i said....some things i do....but hey just like you said...we are all human....but to be racist like that....she didn't have to do that either....mr dogeatdog....i think we were both wrong...(meaning her and i).... i started it with a private post to her...and i got my answer....i mean do you ever think about the people that are in need of things for suvival, what they would think?....i need a car....i need money for a cell phone....i need money for alot of things....but you don't see me posting those things.....i only post for survival....but fortunately the lord worked it out to where my gas is paid by my dad....we are still not out of the water yet....but we have heat...my heart goes out to everyone who needs for survival....not things that can be done without....forgive me sir....i am not trying to be hard or disrespect you...and i told her in the post...the same thing i am saying now....that there are more important things to need and want than things like that....yes i might have said some things like if your boyfriend don't want to work....he doesn't need to be around....you know i was wrong for saying that....it was not my place to say that....but i never said she was a low life....and thanks dogeatdog for reminding me about judging....the lord put me in my place....it is time for lights out....i am three hours past the limit of electricity use....everyone be blessed and have a good night....
daisydu

 in response to ekikaseven...   yes you may....i take pride of how God made me and how i am....i was born with a cranial facial disorder....that is what the doctor's called it....really they didn't know what it was....back in the 70's they didn't know what to call it....so they named it....tried experimental surgery...it was always....mrs. shavers we will try this and if that don't work we will try that the next time.....

i was born on an army base in hiddleburgh germany....they used forcepts on me to pull me out of my mother's womb....i am talking to mama now.....on the phone....she told me that the doctor told her that, that side of my face could have rested on her pelvus and could have stopped the circulation of blood and it didn't get fully developed....and with a baby's tendar age their face and skull is still soft....meaning the forcepts didn't help much....i have a hemangioma tumor that was above my right eye....wrapped around my jaw bone and muscles...i also have hemangioma tumor on my brain....i have calcifications on my brain where several tumors come and gone....and for those who don't know what a hemangioma tumor is....it is a large mass of bloodvessells that grow fast and come and go.....that is what i was told....

i don't want anyone feeling sorry for me....not that i am saying anyone is....i am a normal person like everyone else....just have difficulties....i had many reconstructive serguries....one they took bone out of my left hip... and placed the bone above my eye...then they broke my jaw in three places....that was suppose to straighten my jaw...didn't work....the next surgery....they rerouted my jaw muscles and i wore a tape on my face....it was suppose to lift that side of my face so it wouldn't have the saggyness...and they said they worked on my nerves to make me be able to smile on that side of my face....well....in my baby pictures i was smiling on that side....that side of my face looked normal....the only thing that even looked to me is that it was lower than my left side....i have theories of what could have happened and what could have happened and what it would have turned out....

for a while i was upset....and thought the doctors messed me up worse....but what they explained was when i grew up....i would change....and that i did....but there is so many things ....other things...to worry about.....like life....really i don't care what people say about me...unless i am just in that depressed mood....i am seeking a doctor...that will help me if they can.....but i don't know...i am scared because with the hemangioma tumor behind my eye and my jaw....well i don't have to say no more....

everyone have a blessed night....and thanks for asking....yall take care
daisy

 in response to daisydu...   Hi 'daisydu',

I am very proud of you for standing up for yourself.
I'm glad you made her post public.
You are absolutely right,there is really no difference in people. No matter what the race people are just 'people'.

I'm so sorry that you had to suffer abuse from other people.
I don't like for people to suffer abuse especially for something they can't help. God made each of us the way He wanted us to be. No one should be tormented because of that.

May I ask what type of birth defect do you have?
Not trying to be nosey, I'm curious. Its just the 'nurse' in me.

Hope you have a great evening.

 in response to dogeatdog...   I do not condone what she said, the nigger comment really brings her massage to you to an entirely different level. However, I believe we have all done things in our life we regret. Let's not pass judgements like calling her man a lazy ass, calling her a lowlife, a bully, or questioning her mental status. If she were to apologize and do it with the right heart, we should accept it. If she chooses not to apologize seek comfort in the proverb I posted below. She will be judged just as the rest of us will when the time comes.

God bless

He who corrects an arrogant man earns insult; and he who reproves a wicked man incurs opprobrium. Reprove not an arrogant man, let he hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. Instruct a wise man, and he becomes still wiser; teach a just man, and he advances in learning.
-- Proverbs 9:7-9

 in response to ekikaseven...   i understand what you are saying ekikaseven.....i didn't do this out of anger....i did that to try to show her she just can't do that on this sight....i like this sight because it has real people with real problems.....people that can get together and talk about each other's pains, do's and don't's...i do feel sorry for her....not because she says she is without....i feel sorry for the mental part of it all....there has to be a reason why she feels it is necessary to call people names and bring others down....like a bully....you know i will be honest with you about something....at first i brought myself down to her level and cussed her back and did the name calling....then i read it twice....i asked myself....is this the way you really want to be? then i deleted it....and i decided to post it publically....for the black people i am sorry you had to see that....i want you guys to know there is no such thing as a "nigger" it is african american.....i love all colors of people and there isn't no difference in us all....we share the same god....pain.....feelings....love....children....life on this earth should be no less or no more than the other....i wish everyone would get along....we are all humans and for years people has fought each other on which race is better....no one is better than the other.....god made us....and we are all his children....
people like that it does no good to try to understand them....nothing can change her way of thinking...but we know that god can....

in the post that i posted her...i simply told her that there are more people on this sight that need food shelter and lights gas water....i said there are people that are in worse shape than she is just be thankful for what she has....if you can't see the post that i responded to....let me know i will gladly post what i said to her....she thinks i was telling her that she doesn't want to work....but i never mentioned anything like that....

you know ekikaseven....i lived all my life scared to stand up for myself....and i lived a very hard life because of my birthdefect....i let people run over me all the time....and while being married to an abusive husband....i lowered myself down to everyone else's level who cursed me.....not no more....i left that life behind....and it is going to stay behind....well i have to go and find something to cook....lol i don't need any negative around me.....so i blocked her one on one....so if she wants to say anything to me....she is got to make it public....and if she sends me an email....then i will just do a copy and paste again....i am not sorry i did that....we want to keep this sight clean....for real people....not for abuse....we deal with people like that enough in everyday life....this sight should be for ones that talk to others to relieve stress....not to stay stressed....you know like a get away from it all....take care ekikaseven and talk to ya later
daisy

 in response to bookworm2011...   your welcome and thank you....she has a hard lesson to learn in life you can't get anywhere by acting like that....makes you wonder how many people has already helped her and it goes unappreciated....or how she treated them afterwards....you can only get so far in life....yes there are many people in this world that will over look things like that...but you never know when you gonna get that one person who....what do you call it? stand up for themselves....but then there is another part....to where people like that really need help....mentally.....it sounds to me she is spoiled rotten use to getting her way....i bet she is a great person....without that attitude....i know i use to act like that....but i was also with an abused husband too....i am just trying to change my ways....please note though....i never cursed anyone or put anyone down for an opinion or someone trying to offer advice....if i didn't like what was said to me....i kept my thoughts to myself....people don't realize they screw things up for themselves when they act like that.....you don't respect people....how are you going to get someone else's respect.....well gotta go....thanks for the upper's bookworm....
daisy

 in response to daisydu...   Thank you so much for sharing this.
Its good to see how people really are.
There was no need for her to call you any 'names' or use profanity.

And,why would she call anyone the 'N' word???
I just don't understand. I wonder if she is doing that meaning to degrade someone?
There are alot of people that she is calling 'N's -that are very successful, have great careers, have money, have nice homes, educated & have loving families.
And trust me, none would 'change places' with her or would desire to have 'her life'.

Like I said, I just don't understand.
If her 'race or color' gives her some ADVANTAGE over another, then perhaps she could 'use' it instead of being on Aidpage begging for help.

 in response to daisydu...   i wanted everyone to see how this lady is acting towards my opinion.....i offended her...but i was telling the truth...i am not apologizing....cause what she replied to me one on one she does not deserve anything....copy and paste.....very very lovely tool....don't you think?

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Fuck you bitch.. u dont fucking know me.. u don't know what im going though.. telling me that im not willing to work a job like salvation army fuck you u nigger.. u dont know me bitch! FUCK YOU!

i will then post my reply to her.....be back shortly

mam....i mean no disrespect....believe me i don't.....but there are more people doing with out for the holidays worse than you are....i have read several of your post....and i do feel for you and your children....i don't understand ...you are asking for money to buy christmas and they way you word it is to make someone feel sorry for your situation....i have read several of your post....and some was for your phone bill and birthdays and christmas....you know it wont hurt your children to do without christmas for a change....alot of people are doing without...and there are lots of people in worse shape than you are....there are other people on this site that are needing money for food and rent....clothing for their children....people that are in much worse shape than you are....i know this is going to offend you and my apologies.....no i don't have the money for my own kids something for christmas....i haven't been able to buy my son christmas for 7 years now....and yes that is the truth....my son understands...he said it is ok mom...as long as we are together on that day....buying presents is not what christmas is all about ....i never told my son the make believe story of santa clause....if you haven't told them about santa you wouldn't have this problem right now....like i said i know this is ticking you off and i don't mean too....but you must realize that if you haven't recieved any help yet....is because you are asking for things that most people can do without....there are other ways to get a message out beside a cell phone...cut corners....cell phones are more expensive than house phones....my husband and i we have a luxury....you know what that is....electricity.....natural gas....food that we have come in this house (and believe me there is not much of it...) my fiance works hard...if your boyfriend will not find a job...then it is time to kick his A$$ to the curb....there is no need in keeping a lazy man around...everyone is doing without....face it....you are not the only one....i have to go....time for lights out....just like our light bill....we don't use the lights during the day....and at night...we use the lights to cook supper to take a shower and get ready for bed.....2 hours everynight....we use the lights...brought my light bill down to 89.00 a month....and we live a in 2500 square foot house....i think i ticked you off enough mam...sorry this post is blunt...but it is an honest opinion....and i have that right....and if you don't like this post then you shouldn't be putting your business up....well you take care there ms proudmom.....you take care of your girls with food before you get there presents....wish you luck